This blog is directed at heterosexual women. However, in any type of relationship the potential is there for us to be burdened with providing the ‘prefect sexual experience’, something that is clearly not reality. So, read away!
Every morning when I check my email, I read things from different health based websites that I have subscribed to as well as junk mail offering information about how women can please their man in bed. “10 way to please you man” was the latest one. Another I recently read said “10 things women do wrong in bed.” Wrong? That word alone is enough to make any women run the other way in fear of being put under even more pressure to be ‘prefect’ in bed. As if to say that women should be pleasing their man 100% of the time, we can’t possibly live up to these unrealistic standards. Besides, these lists of ‘10 things women blah blah blah….in bed’ are made up by who?? Exactly.
Sex is about so much more than always pleasing the other person. It’s about mutual respect, being comfortable with our imperfect bodies and body movements. It is about connecting on a different level that may not have anything to do with sex, the act itself. The emotional and spiritual energy we share with our sexual partner is many of times much more important and crucial to reaching a high level of pleasure, in all aspects of the word.
So what about these emails which in my opinion, are womanizing and scrutinizing? There sure is a lot to say. Here are some main points:
- Pressure for women to physically preform
- Says that women should worry about their sexual skills
- Says that sexual skills should not come naturally
- Takes empowerment and self-love away
- Decreases a women’s self-value and confidence
- Sends a message that women should only worry about their partners needs
To name a few.
Women, if you’re receiving emails or messages like this in any way in your life, please do your amazing selves a favor and take them with a grain of salt. No one else is you and you are perfect in every single way. Don’t keep allowing sex to be an issue in your life. Whether you’re sexually active or not, no matter where you are in your process, sex is something that IS imperfect. That’s what makes it so special and personal.